Pro-Choice, really?

Life

 

This is more than a touchy subject and I may be committing
blogger suicide with some of my readers but you should at least hear me out.

I just had my first baby. It’s what I know will be the
greatest thing I’ve ever done outside of if I ever accomplish world peace. But
rather than bask in the wonders of what I know firsthand is the miracle of life
and balk at anyone who is Pro-Choice, I find myself joining that other side
some refer to as the baby killers. I am Pro-Choice, here’s why.

I’ve always known that I wanted to be a mother. I used to
play with my dolls and pretend that the father was at work. I got my brother
and sisters in on the act. Sometimes even pretending to give birth (from
underneath my tee shirt). I just knew that I would meet the man of my dreams
and have enough children to form a singing group or a sports team. Well as real
life happens, yes, I have met that man. And no, I won’t be able to have as many
children as I think I want. I gave birth 3 months ago (not from underneath my
tee shirt) and one thing hit me almost immediately as I rose from my labor in
joy. Who has the right to force this on someone?

People talk about labor pain, but this was greater than the
simplistic word we understand as pain. If you read about my post ‘My Birth
Story’ you will see some of what I went through. What I didn’t tell you is that
the sensation I had was not pain my dear. It was a radiating wave of power
sweeping over my body so strong and immobilizing that there were moments when I
literally lost my breath.

In addition to the physical demands of pregnancy and labor I
think about the psychological impact on someone that goes through that only to
give the baby away? Now I see why some surrogates want the baby once it’s born.
People, nature does not provide that our womb is a loaner!

I do not condone abortion as a twisted means of
contraception, but in the same vein I do not condone imposing guilt on someone
who might be the 1% of that condom/contraception failure crew to push a child
out. Nor do I condone forcing someone to have a rapist’s child!

I believe the most loving thing you can do for the world is
to have children that are wanted and give life voluntarily. Is that such a  horrible position to take on this issue?

About Tara Kamiya

I am a personality blogger of Japanese & African American marriage and motherhood. Featured in the U.S. on Four Weddings Season 2. For product reviews, speaking engagements and appearances please contact me via email: kamiyatara@gmail.com
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3 Responses to Pro-Choice, really?

  1. Tara, I agree with you 100%. I am a new follower and you won’t lose me due to your point of view! I believe that every woman needs to make that
    choice for themselves. It is a lifetime commitment to raise a child and not everyone is ready to give their lives to someone else. I teach in an alternative h.s. program and I can tell you that the person who suffers most when an unwanted child is brought into the world is the child. People say that babies will be adopted; but that is not always the case. Many kids are stuck in foster care or group homes for years. When the child is the focus of the mom’s resentment, it can be a very hard life. You raise some good points here!

  2. majo says:

    1) no doubt you went through a lot of pain…but didn’t you suffer so much pain cause you chose a natural birth? not to say that you wouldnt have any pain at all if it wasnt a natural birth…but yours was considerably worse, cuz it was natural.
    2) we say the child will suffer if born to someone who doesn’t want them…but doesn’t the child also suffer when you kill it? i saw some abortion videos on youtube. the cameras actually show the child screaming in pain. so maybe that pain you described when you went through childbirth, is actually nothing compared to the pain the child will feel when its killed.
    3) yes. not everyone will be adopted. but if you could have a (less) painful childbirth, and help some family who’s been struggling to have a child, raise the child you didn’t want…why not? there’s psychological pain when you kill it and pain when you give the child away.
    4) why do we think we have the right to kill someone because we don’t want them. i wouldnt mind if pro choicers said the baby wasn’t a living thing, and so it doesn’t matter. but it seems they acknowledge that the baby is alive…whether its fully grown or not. i mean, you wouldnt take a knife and scrape an animal or stab it till its dead simply because you didn’t want it …would you? if you couldn’t care for your pet dog anymore, you would see if someone else could have him no? or at least have him put away humanely. same with the elderly. so why not afford that same courtesy to a human baby? this society puzzles me. we’re kinder to plants and animals than we are to ourselves.

  3. Lucy says:

    I 100% disagree with killing babies because your body do not belong to you, it belongs to God. Your mom did not abort you because she could not ask you if you wanted to live or not. Life is not just flesh and blood but spirit and soul. Every life is a precious gift and everyone who chooses to take that life will be held accountable. The child had nothing to do with the rape and abortion is worse than rape. It’s selfishness to think of whats best for you and not the child. A real mother would give up her life for her child to live. Greater love have no man than this, that a man would give up his life for his friend. I have 6 beautiful children and I can not imagine given up one of them. Also there is so much pain and torment when a person has an abortion. Bless you

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