About me

I am a housewife.

The real story is that I am an African American born and raised in New York City, now living in a small town in Japan.

My husband is a chef. He loves DJ-ing, rock, hip-hop, & punk music, houses, dogs, and me/our family [not in that order I hope].

We were chosen by a reality show to have our wedding shown to the world in the form of competition (Four Weddings season 2). It was a fun experience and has led to other opportunities. I have videos of myself and family posted on YouTube(smartalecky1) if you’d like to check them out. I am currently working on ebooks and active with a few other projects. I also sew and crochet.

I’ve been to Quebec, Namibia, South Africa; Quepos, and a few places in Japan. I  have also visited and lived in various states for short periods of time. One of my favorite places in America is Seattle in the summertime. I would say that I am patriotic when it is convenient, and never miss an opportunity to reject conventional means of doing anything.

We are currently living in Japan with our 3 children, grandparents, and great grandparents.

41 Responses to About me

  1. Anayah says:

    Tara, your blog looks great and your family sounds so interesting. Your little one is absolutely adorable!

  2. Eliss says:

    I love your blog! If possible, I would like to do an interview with you. Please email me if you’re interested.

    Have a great day!

  3. Tara K. says:

    Namibia, it was great!

  4. Alfonsina says:

    Hey Tara! Cool Blog!!!!

  5. Grangersmith says:

    I am a native Washingtonian (state) have lived on the east coast the middle, and even San Francisco (my 2nd favorite city) And still my favorite city is Seattle in the summer, the entire Puget Sound region in the summer and early fall late spring! I live in Olympia WA 60 miles south of Seattle. Every time I have left this region, I miss it so much and can actually smell it when I am close to it if coming home by land! I did love living in Santa Cruz CA in the 1970’s but it’s not the same now.And I have lived in Seattle, was years ago, love it but am not a city person. I use to live 50 odd miles west of NYC, Randolph Twsp, NJ, and have been to NYC many time throughout my life, even before I lived in NJ! Unfortunately have never been outside the US except Canada, and Mexico. Would have loved to travel out side of the US but it’s never going to happen at this point in my life. You are going to have an interesting journey in Japan, it’s a very interesting place. I think the people there in general are very nice. Good luck on your journey will have to peak at your adventure from time to time! ;D

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  7. Hey Tara , I ‘ m a hispanic girl married with a japanese man, he’ s from Tokyo and we met each other when we were living in NYC ( 15 years), we got married 4 years ago and we are currently living in Tokyo.

  8. star says:

    i love your thoughts on work. Im currently working in corporate after graduating from college, but i have mixed feeling about working.
    I would like to know what you do for money then? How do you support yourself.

  9. Tara Kamiya says:

    Cool. I will check out your blog also.How is Tokyo?

  10. Tara Kamiya says:

    Thanks. Yeah work sucks but we all have to eat somehow right? Well, right now I am a stay at home mom and my husband supports the family. I do some online things to bring in a few dollars. When I was in NY I was an English teacher before I got pregnant. After I had my son I had my own business set up where I taught people how to make t-shirts into bags.http://smartalecky.wordpress.com/ Since I moved, I have not set up my online store yet.

  11. Michelle says:

    Hi Tara, I just discovered your blog after watching a few posts on youtube. I am also a black american woman married to a Japanese man. We live in Nara ken. It is so rare to find another in a situation like me so I am grateful that you are posting. After 11 years here, working as a teacher, I am now a stay-at-home wife (for now). My husband is an artist (but not yet famous, smile). I hope to meet you one day in the near future. Congrats on your son, we are working on having children now, I am 37 and very nervous but optimistic. Looking forward to reading your new posts.

  12. Tara Kamiya says:

    Thanks so much for watching. I am looking to connect with moms in my same situation so I am glad to hear from you. If you are a praying woman, pray and life will come to you. Also keep healthy. I am not that young either girl, and guess what, I am pregnant. Sending you positive vibes and love!

  13. Samantha says:

    You know, Africa is not a country and it’s really annoying to those of us who are Africans and live in Africa when Americans fail to specify the country or countries they are talking about. Nice blog otherwise.

  14. Tara Kamiya says:

    I did not name any specific areas of any place I visited. But if that is your way of asking, I have been to Namibia and South Africa.

  15. Sabrina says:

    Konichiwa, Tara.

    I love your YouTube channel and decided to pay a visit to your blog, and wow! I love the way you think.

    I HATE being a career drone too. I have been job hopping too because I can never find satisfaction in them. I also plan to be a strong, happy mother like yourself (I just hope my soul husband is around the corner.) I rather focus on my own family than some energy draining career.

    Anyway, I really miss Japan and their traditional (but still modern at times) way of life. Your videos always brighten my day, so I now I am off to continue exploring your blog.

    Congrats! For the new baby – Yay!

  16. Tara Kamiya says:

    Thanks so much. These are the kinds of comments that keep me going. It is not easy to live here, or to make videos but if I know it helps or entertains someone that makes me happy. Your blessings are around the corner. I remember when I was getting deeper and deeper into my 30s and still waiting. There is no limit to happiness and it comes to the positive like yourself! Be Well and thanks again for reading and watching.

  17. Vicky Bennetts says:

    Hi Tara,

    I’m a producer working on a new TV series and we might be coming to film in Tokyo in early April. I really enjoy your blog and would love to get in touch. Part of the programme is all about having children and family. It would be good to speak to you further about the project. Please do contact me on my email address and I’ve also private messaged you on your Youtube channel. I look forward to hearing from you soon


    Vicky Bennetts

  18. Staci says:

    Hello Tara,
    I’m really happy I found your blog. I too am from Queens, NY and had several (too many to count) horrible experiences in corporate America. I accomplished many great things and met a lot of wonderful people (clients) but supervisors and co-workers were just too much to handle. I am in an interracial marriage as well. My husband is Italian and our wedding was featured on Essence.com’s Bridal Bliss as well as the February 2013 issue of Essence magazine. I am a blogger and write about my natural hair, marriage and new life in New Mexico. Currently I am a stay-at-home wife and mom to our puppy Rottweiler. After serving with AmeriCorps VISTA I am thinking about going into teaching. But right now I am enjoying staying home and taking care of my husband, home and dog.

  19. Tara Kamiya says:

    That is great. I always like to hear about women who are creating original lives and living fearlessly! Thanks for reading. I will check out your article in Essence and blog.

  20. jessica says:

    I hate working too! I am so ready to be a house wife. This single parenting thing is driving me nuts.

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  22. corey says:

    hello i am a male currently living in japan for 9 years now iwas wondering if you had a contacts that do cornrows thanks in advance

  23. Tara Kamiya says:

    Nobody at the moment…sorry.

  24. Lizzie says:

    I absolutely love your blog. It is an inspiration.

  25. Robert says:

    Tara – glad to see you doing well and have a beautiful family

  26. Dear Tara,

    I am so happy to find your blog! I am also living in a joint family aboard (but in my case, India).

    I am excited to follow your blog and read more!!! Lots of love to you and your BEAUTIFUL family!!!

    Lauren x

  27. Lovely D says:

    Hello Tara. Thank you for your blog. Very inspiring. By the way, are most of the Black American women in Japan fairly young? At 46 it may be too late for me to transition to Japan regardless of career.

  28. Tara Kamiya says:

    Funny you should ask. I am 37 and I met a woman who has to be at least 40. I meet with her next weekend. I will try to blog about it!

  29. Ashley says:

    Ms. Tara I think it is wonderful that your family has such a beautiful mix of cultures! I found your blog when I watched one of your YouTube videos and as someone who has never left the USA, I find everything you say very interesting. I hope you continue to teach people how no matter who you are or where you are from we are all still people. Thank you, we need more people like you in the world. By the way, I really enjoyed the video about how you met your husband. As a 20 year old, I really take the advice you gave about finding love to heart 🙂

  30. Victor says:

    I am fro Kenya and about to go live in Japan.
    Your Youtube Channel has helped alot.
    Good work.

  31. NayNarium says:

    Tara, it has been a LONG time. It’s funny because today, they were running old episodes o Four Weddings and there you were. I’m glad you and your family are well. I can’t believe you are in Japan! You were always real and very unique. May God Bless and Keep you and your family. I salute u, virtuous woman!!!

  32. L C says:

    Congrats to you and your family! I stumbled upon your Youtube channel earlier today. You are a strong and positive American American woman. We face challenges everywhere in the world. You make family life look easy. Take care of yourself and your family.

  33. Soni says:

    You Sir/Madam are the enemy of confusion evreewhyer!

  34. Patricia says:

    Hi Tara,
    My name is Patricia, I’m 22 and I’m from Paris.
    I speak french usually, so sorry beforehand if I have a bad english.
    I admire you, because you have a beautiful and I had always wanted to live in Japan but it’s not easy and I have to learn the japanese’s language too…english is not hard to learn, but japanese is another thing…do you speak japanese usally ?

  35. Patricia says:

    beautiful life *

  36. Tara Kamiya says:

    I do speak Japanese daily. Well, if I leave the house. Because I am the only native speaker for miles, it is my responsibility to make sure the boys(as well as my husband) maintain their fluency.

  37. Tamara Liburd says:

    I appreciate you sharing about your life in Japan

  38. Tara Kamiya says:

    Yes I did! I am redoing my channel and social media. Updates coming.

  39. Melanie Sasaki says:

    Thanks Tara for your wonderful story.
    I had lots of laughter while reading your love story.
    I am a Filipina living in Tokyo for 10 years.
    I love Tokyo,I love Japan.

  40. Byron Peterson says:

    Hi Tara,

    I’m an American from Montana living in Kasugai, Japan and working in Toki, Gifu prefecture. Been in Japan 25 years, my wife and 17 year old daughter (adopted) are Japanese. Maybe you know Avril from the UK?

    Best wishes,


  41. Tara Kamiya says:

    Hi Byron! Yes I know her well.

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