Tara Kamiya

@theexpathome

black woman eating mochi
Mommy before burn out

In 2015 I put way too much on myself.

Nobody to blame but myself. I will move forward.

The new baby is great! She is 10 months old and already saying Da-Da everyday. She took two steps this month also.

My babies are just amazing. I cook for them, clean for them, and teach them at home. I am in the process of finding out about homeschool in Japan. Not sure if I want to go that route, but I will look into my options.

Yes, amazing babies, amazing life. Too bad I forgot about me. Yes, I burnt myself out in 2015. Over the summer I had a major surge of energy and got quite a bit accomplished. I even found myself in the Japan Times. Very happy about that; 20 thousand blog views in one day. Now the whole Island knows my business.LOL

 

What I neglected to do was assess the change in the family structure. I decided to keep my 2 year old home another year and I had a new baby. We also moved into an apartment. All of these changes yet I neglected to get help. My husband works in the restaurant business and he is taking on more responsibility. It does not serve the family to  even ask him to breathe once he gets home. I should have done better with getting help. We did  have a housekeeper come in after the baby came, but that was for like 4 months. My guilt ate me up and I let her leave. Big mistake. Well, good news is I am kicking guilt’s ass this year!Ha! No way I can get my books published and wipe all these butts in here without any help.

natural hair japan
One baby mom

Japan is a very generous country. There are services for single moms, working moms and a stipend for the children. Articles come out about the lack of services for single moms, but I have not seen first hand any lack where I am. A good friend said she was able to finish her Doctorate degree here in Japan courtesy of the assistance from the prefecture. Aichi has a really good health care system also. I have heard that it is different in Gifu, etc.

I am still learning about how to survive here, but I am done with the survival program. I am here to thrive. A big part of me is creative, adventurous and vain. I was a big gym rat and I miss that.

My message, my suggestion to you is remember who you are and be that person. Life is a lot easier when you are true to yourself. As a woman with a family especially. Your partner will appreciate it, your kids and your pets too. That energy will circulate and bring forth all kinds of goodness.

blasian baby
#3

I will post more about that too. I have started getting into Reiki, Chakras, Crystals and all other kinds of touchy feely stuff that Pisces like.

How are you starting off the first month of the year?

Be Well,

Tara K.

 

 

 

16 thoughts on “Lint Trap Queen

  1. loved the comment “over surviving. Ready to thrive.” I hope 2016 brings some balance into your life and by balance I mean YOU getting to do some things for YOU!!

  2. Happy new year ! Well it is great to hear that everyone is ok and that you decided to care for tourself more 🙂 I started the year with a bunch of projects myself, one felt through already so I realize that maybe it was for the best and I can just keep enjoying being a mom haha

  3. I love reading about your journey as a mother especially as a mother in another country. It is so refreshing and encouraging.

    Best of luck in 2016!

  4. Missed your videos but I’m happy to read the blog too. I’ve been trying to but myself first and also try new things and finish a book. It’s a lot to do but I’m going to get there. Glad to see family is doing well 🙂

  5. Thanks for sharing. I’m in that boat of finding me. Your writing made me think. Glad I found your blog.

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